These are a few of my favorite stones and crystals for healing through grief or loss.
A personal story:
In January we lost Boyd's father. He passed away unexpectedly after getting sick and spending a few days in the hospital with some underlying issues finally surfacing. Boyd's stepfather had passed away just three months earlier, so needless to say it has been a rough five months. I’m really close with my in-laws, and everyone is still heartbroken and in shock still.
Personally I’m working through what it’s like to support your partner/family while grieving. And what it’s like to navigate all of those feelings while sober. Prior to these last months, I hadn’t lost anyone close to me in years, and I wasn’t able to process things back then the way that I do now. I used to have a really hard time feeling and expressing my emotions. I never remember crying very much when I was younger, and when I was a kid I used to demand to sit in the dryer to have any sort of serious conversation with my mom. (Seriously.) During first year of sobriety, I lost one of my grandparents and I think that I was still so new to facing my emotions honestly and head on that I didn’t really process it at the time. Years later it hit me and all of the feelings that I had unknowingly buried deep down came spilling out, which goes to show that these things don’t just disappear on their own and that avoidance is not a viable option for growth and healing. So this time around, I’m trying to acknowledge and identify my emotions, express them, and talk about them. My heart isn’t any less sad, but spirit feels lighter when I experience and release the pain instead of walking around with it unchecked in my body for years.
The last time that my father-in-law visited, he spent a good part of the day with just me and E. We went to Jerry's Rock and Gem (my favorite rock shop in Kent, Washington) and it was the best. He said that it was going to be our new thing that we do together, and had plans to go back the next time that he came to stay with us. He bought two beautiful display pieces, including this deep pink polished rose quartz. When we went to help gather his belongings, they were the first things that I wanted to find. I didn't have to look hard. There they were, sitting on his bookcase in a little basket near the front door along with some other familiar crystals that had belonged to his mother. And now they have a little spot on the shelf in my office, right above where I'm sitting and writing this right now. Every time that I look up and see them, it makes me feel so happy to know that he had picked this out on our little outing, and still so sad to know that it was our last one.
For anyone else that’s grieving, whether that be the loss of a loved one, a relationship, a job, or even anyone needing a little extra heart healing, I’m sending a little energetic hug your way. I wanted to share some of the stones that I have chosen to work with to support me through my time of grief.
MY FAVORITE CRYSTALS FOR GRIEF
When I was choosing crystals to take with me on our trip to be with Boyd's family after his father passed, I focused mainly on these areas:
• heart healing stones (heart chakra) for gentle, loving energy and emotional support
• grounding stones (root chakra) to help keep me centered and dispel negative energy
• communication stones (throat chakra) for healthy expression of emotions
In addition to the stones listed below, I also chose clear quartz for general healing and spiritual understanding and growth, and rainbow moonstone for embracing and releasing grief as necessary and adapting in times of change.
STONES FOR EMOTIONAL HEALING
Rose quartz is known as the stone of unconditional love. It can help to open the heart chakra and bring deep but gentle healing. It is also extremely helpful for soothing feelings of fear, stress, and anxiety.
Rhodochrosite is a powerful stone to bring deep emotional healing. It speaks to your inner child to help release past hurts, and is beneficial in times of stress and anxiety. It also works synergistically with brown tourmaline for healing from deep rooted trauma.
Pink Tourmaline is great for emotional heart balance and physical heart healing. It can teach you the value of vulnerability and help grow through the most difficult seasons of life.
Kunzite can help you stop trying to resist reality and just let go. It connects the mind and heart to help you process thoughts and feelings and break down walls that you’ve built up around your heart.
Pink lemuriun quartz
Pink lemurian quartz relates to the heart chakra, and is especially helpful when worn near the heart. It can dissolve blockages caused by past emotional pain or trauma, and help you express healthy and unconditional love for yourself and others. Sometimes in order to move forward and release ourselves from the pattern of creating pain in our lives, we need to fully allow ourselves to heal from the hurt of the past.
STONES FOR GROUNDING & PROTECTION
Black tourmaline is an extremely protective and powerful grounding stone, and is also great for meditation and healing work. It can promote self-confidence, re-channel negative thoughts and energy patterns, and is said to alleviate feelings of anger and stress.
Brown Tourmaline (Dravite)
Brown tourmaline can bring emotional strength and acceptance, even in trying times. It is especially beneficial for anyone that has experienced emotional trauma. It can bring to light deep rooted issues that need to be resolved and help calm the nerves and give you the strength to face them head on.
The energy of smoky quartz can transform negative emotions and energy patterns. It tends to penetrate and dissolve energy fields which have been generated from negative thought forms, anger, and resentment. It allows for clarity of thought, and balances yin and yang energies. It is an excellent grounding stone, enhancing attentiveness and stimulating higher awareness. Acts as a protective stone, encompassing a barrier of energy around the user.
STONES FOR COMMUNICATION
Aquamarine aids you in letting go of emotional issues from the past that you have been holding on to in order to move forward through your grief. It encourages open communication, and can help you speak clearly about your emotions while releasing any blocks that you have about being open with your feelings. By speaking from the heart, you can release blockages in both the throat and heart chakras.
Just like my last post about Crystals for Mothers, this is not a comprehensive list but rather a selection of the stones that I personally chose to support me on my own journey with grief this time around. I believe that any stone that resonates with you and feels supportive could be a good option for you, and that using your intuition when selecting a crystal is the best way to find a stone to benefit your highest good.
DISCLAIMER: The above information is based on my reading and my own personal experience with stones. Although I fully believe in the healing power of nature, crystals, and intention, none of the above is intended to be taken as medical advice or guarantee the healing of any ailments or disease. Crystals should be used as a complement to other therapies, and not as a replacement for medical treatment, diagnosis, or examination. For medical advice, please consult a licensed healthcare specialist.